We’ve all heard this at one time or another. It may not be the exact wording but the meanings are still the same. “Come on, you’ve gotta move on with your life, they aren’t worth it.” “Just chalk it up to experience and move on to the next.” “There are other fish in the sea.”
I think you get the picture. But, as you know, it’s not always that easy. You can’t always see the other side of a bad situation right away. You can’t just sweep it under the rug and act like it never happened. Things don’t just go away that easily. Especially things that meant so much to you. What people need to understand, in this new faster paced world, is that some things don’t just go away so easily. Sometimes you need time to grieve, or to understand entirely what has happened. For some people it is a lost relationship. You cared about another human being. You wanted to be with them. They MEANT something to you beyond what the rest of the world may have noticed. It is HARD to get over someone like that. For other it may be a lost opportunity or job. You wanted that so bad. You thought you had it, maybe you did and something happened. You TRIED. You WORKED for something. It may take you longer than a couple of days to bounce back. Still, it may be depression, anxiety. Some people do not understand how hard it is for you to get out of bed some days. People don’t realize how much it takes out of you to put a smile on your face sometimes. You cannot just “move past” this. You aren’t begging for attention. Never let those people get to you.
Either way, sometimes you cannot just “build a bridge and get over it”. I am not saying you should wallow in it all of the time. I do not think that sitting on a couch and watching Netflix while eating will fix things. But, I do think you need time. Time to heal and to think. Time to understand there is something bigger out there for you. And you cannot always do that in the time period the rest of the world believes you should.
Don’t let the world get to you. Know you’re not alone in this.